I have often found myself challenging people‘s ideas from the standpoint of helping.

My hope is to have you see things from multiple perspectives in order to validate the new idea

I was brought up with the idea of listening to everyone and then making my own decision.

I think this really helped me to be able to see problems from multiple perspectives.

However, and this is a big however, my recent experience has been that when I received challenge when what I actually wanted was support and encouragement it induced anger, frustration and rage.

There is no doubt in my mind that person was trying to be supportive of me and my new idea. It just wasn’t useful in that moment for me. 

Seems to be a spectrum. Sometimes we need challenge to validate and improve ideas yet on other occasions we need support, love and encouragement.

For me, if I have been at one end of the extremes, the way to find middle ground is to go to the other end of the extreme and give it a try so that I know where middle is.

Support can give as much growth as challenge. For me It’s just deciding which is more appropriate for the moment 

So I guess if you’re close to me in my life you may soon feel your very supported or very challenged. 

Either way I hope it’s helpful